Box ME Not!!!

When I was Pastoring (in the deep Bible belt South) folk always had something to say about how I should act, dress and be as a Pastors wife. My husband would sit in pulpits while I would sit in the pews because I was a woman (even though I was an ordained Pastor like my husband). Because I have tattoos and piercings and prefer tennis shoes over heels, that just made everything even worse. When I went to the military instead of college and got pregnant (being unmarried), I was told that I was smarter than that to have gotten myself in that situation. I could go on for days with those stories of what I did vs what I was told I should and should not have done with my life. The truth of the matter is that people will always have an idea about who and what you should be based on how they see you. What you deserve and when you should have it. How and where you should carry yourself, etc. But what matters is how you see yourself. The only box that you should be put in is the one that you put yourself in. This way you decide how tall, how wide and how fancy the box will be. Stop allowing folk to tell you what you do and don't deserve. Who you are and who you are not. No one has that right to box you in. So when people attempt to create a box for you, let them know "No thank you. I got this." #Unapologetically #UnapologeticAF

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